Someone sent me a link to "The Secret". In the few minutes that I saw, I heard 2 great sayings from 2 different motivational speakers that will stick with me for life.
I am the best example of how the world is supposed to treat me.
Forgiveness happens when you give up the idea that you have the ability to change the past.
While complaining about how life isn't fair, a stranger told me:
If you lay down, someone will always walk over you. If you stand up, someone will always stand behind you waiting their turn.
Many people have the same question about motivation. How do I get some? I have goals and tasks I would like to get accomplished, but why can't I seem to get in the mood to do them? I want to clean my messy house, but the only time I have available is the weekend and I want to rest on that day.
I don't know if I'm lazy or crazy because my list of to do stuff gets longer. The longer the list, the more stressed out I feel and the more I want to run away from my list.
How do I get started? One side of my brain says I want to get these things done and the other side of my brain talks me out of it.
I heard it on a talk show years ago that you don't find motivation, you find action.
I use to read books, watch motivational speakers, and listen to my elders to find that nugget of wisdom that would shock my system into action. I would start a task, then quit midway through because I found it tedious, boring, or time consuming. I use to hate check writing the day I put my paycheck in the bank. It seemed like so much to do at one time. I then started to put off writing checks for bills when I clearly had the funds to cover the bill. Then the bill would be paid late or not at all which lowered my FICO score. It took me a long time to put 2 + 2 together. I then destressed the situation. Instead of writing 10 to 15 checks for those bills, I'd write 1 or 2 checks a day. At one point, I mailed bills every day of the week. It seemed like a minor inconvenience compared to my previous method.
Lesson learned:
"Too bad the baby wasn't born with an instructional book when he was born", has always been the common saying. Why don't we make an instructional book about life for the next generation?
We, for generations, have relied on verbal history from our elders. Being used to hearing the results of history from our elders, we rarely ask how to avoid disaster or how to improve our own future.
We create photo albums of babies, graduations and weddings. How many parents have created a "how to" book to their teen-aged kids on how to begin their adult-hoods? We don't learn about credit scores, how to run a household, or what to expect when you're expecting in school. We hope to learn this at home. How many people wish they had from their parents (or from any adult) a written detailed summary of life stages? How many times have you said to yourself, "I wish someone had told me this before I went through it?"
Consider the idea of writing down the information you have learned through your life from the greatest experiences to the the worst. Then, have the intent of passing on these journals to the next generation. How prepared would your kids be with this instruction book under their arm?
Many people live such busy lives, that the creation of a "to do" list has become a part of american life. This list of reminders contains items, events and activities to include among our daily routines.
Instead of including grocery items and lunch dates on your list, why not include items on your list that will improve your overall life? Many optimistic people would tell you include on your list a daily affirmation. Over the years of watching a lot of TV and many talk shows, I've heard it said by many counselors that you should do positive things to improve your self esteem and dignity.
There are many things that can go on an "improve your life" list. Sit down and figure out what things in your life that you want to change and then make a list of items to do that start the baby steps to improvement. What if you always wanted to read a certain book but didn't do it because it would take you too much time to read it and your time was limited? You could put on your to do list to read at least one paragraph a night before bed. Yes, that would take forever and you might possibly might lose interest. But a year later, you have 2 possible outcomes. You've read none of it or you read half the book. The feeling of accomplishment makes us want to achieve more.
What would you put on your to do list?
TO INSURE PROPER SERVICE
Tips have gotten out of hand. Those who work in the service industry are now demanding more and larger tips. Tips are not requirements. They are courtesy gestures. The argument that I've heard most was, "I need that money to make ends meet because my paycheck is so small."
My question is, "Why do you give your valuable talents away for so cheap?" I've heard that a waitress can earn as little as $3 an hour. That's crazy isn't it? Minimum wage is over $6. A wait person has more requirements to their job than just bringing food out on a tray. Isn't that right? A large portion of the job is customer service and memory, not to mention the physical aspect also. I've never been a waitress nor would I ever want to be one. I'm not built for it. I've never paid a tip nor will I ever want to. I don't believe in paying the waitperson's salary personally. That's what the owner does. I'm not the boss, just a customer. I paid a fee for the food and the price should reflect the added service. I don't believe in paying a separate bill for the wait person.
You can say I'm in customer service too. I currently work in a pharmacy. When I prepare someone's medication I don't look for handouts from the patients. When I go out of my way to guarantee the proper medication in the proper amount of time to the proper person, I don't leave my hand hanging out open wide for someone to fill it because I've extended myself. I look for thank you and I gladly say you're welcome.
My job pays me $19 an hour because I deserve it because of my expertise. I didn't go to college for pharmacy and I don't have a degree. I gained 'on the job training'. I studied, took a test and became certified for pharmacy. Why are wait people accepting such low paying jobs? I've been told, "Well, that's what they pay." I disagree. That's what they pay you. I've worked in low paying jobs as a teenager. I know what a $233 paycheck every two weeks looks like. I got tired of it and decided to move on. I realized my way of life, lifestyle, self worth, and bank account will not be limited by my small paycheck. I'm taking my value somewhere else.
I never gave a monetary tip to anyone. I don't pay salaries to anyone that I don't directly employ. "But the government takes out so much for taxes from my check. I need those tips just to break even." As we now know, the government heavily tax people who can't afford to be heavily taxed. The government helps the rich stay rich and keep the poor stressed, burdened, hungry and disadvantaged.
Since the very wealthy in this country have a strong voice, political and economical power, more money is pulled from the poor. The government discovered that service people were receiving unclaimed money called tips. So the government decided to tap that resource. If you make $20,000 from your employer, the government will assume you make an additional $12,000 in tips. So you are taxed on actual and assumed money. The government has gotten away with robbery. Why? Because you let them. When income taxes were created in this country in the 1940's, the millionaires were to be the most heavily taxed because they accumulated the most income. But the millionaires made an uproar. The millionaires refused to give up so much of their fortunes to their country. So the government had to find another resource. Don't whine and complain, make an uproar.
LESSONS LEARNED:
*Don't judge me, debate me.
*Don't dislike like me for what I say, educate me by what you say.
*You are only as weak and invaluable as you think you are.
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